More than anything, there is one characteristic that is holding your marriage back. One characteristic that isn’t just living in your head rent-free, but has purchased the space and is now renting it out as an Airbnb. It’s how you manage this trait that will determine whether your marriage is successful or whether it wilts. […]
There are many ways to bind a marriage together. You can do it with laughter, shared values, children, and a million other things. I, however, believe that if you don’t have trust, all those other bindings will eventually lose their adhesive. Trust isn’t just the super glue but the rose-colored glasses that makes everything else […]
I know things are rough right now. But by being here right now you’re putting yourself in a position to create a better tomorrow. No matter how deep the hole you’re in feels there’s always a way out, you just need a plan. Right now you feel one or two ways. You either want to […]
I know you love your husband. If you didn’t you wouldn’t be here. You would have let the marriage wilt and moved on. It hurts that you feel as though the affection in your marriage is one-sided. That the relationship you once had is now gone. I’m here to tell you that may not be […]
Since I began helping women overcome infidelity over 10 years ago I’ve spoken with thousands of women. I’ve listened as they have cried, raged, and questioned whether anything good would ever happen to them again. What I’ve learned from working with all these women is that a marriage can be saved if you’re willing to […]
They say that women are the gentler, more reticent sex – I disagree. Men are notorious for their inability to communicate effectively. That’s not a personal opinion, it’s just science. More neurons in the part of the brain dedicated to language and emotions mean women are wired differently than men. So it’s no surprise that […]
Screaming, throwing a plate, crying until you’re dehydrated, and crying in the arms of a loved one all might seem like a good idea right about now. As an initial response, to learning your husband wants a divorce these are all valid reactions. But there will come a time soon enough when you’ll want to […]
A sacred pact has been broken. Your husband has strayed and now you’re left wondering how to heal from cheating and move forward. I know it seems as though the world will forever be stuck in this moment, but you’re not trapped in quicksand. Men have been cheating on women since the advent of monogamy. […]
Humans aren’t exactly the most faithful species. Owl monkeys, bald eagles, and prairie voles are a one-partner type of species. They find their soulmate, mate, and live out the rest of their lives with that one partner. But these creatures are anomalies. Among the living, from bonobos to the honeybee, monogamy isn’t the rule but […]
It can be difficult to see the future when you realize your husband is cheating on you. The maelstrom of emotions brought on by this news can paralyze you. The storm has only just begun, so seeing the light on the horizon may seem pointless. But there is a way to move forward. If you’re […]