More than anything, there is one characteristic that is holding your marriage back. One characteristic that isn’t just living in your head rent-free, but has purchased the space and is now renting it out as an Airbnb. It’s how you manage this trait that will determine whether your marriage is successful or whether it wilts. […]
I’m going to tell you something that you’ll find difficult to hear. This is all temporary. I know it feels like you’re drowning in quicksand but this too shall pass. This isn’t just some platitude that has been recycled to the point of losing all meaning. Rather, I speak from experience. I spend my days […]
I know things are rough right now. But by being here right now you’re putting yourself in a position to create a better tomorrow. No matter how deep the hole you’re in feels there’s always a way out, you just need a plan. Right now you feel one or two ways. You either want to […]
Since I began helping women overcome infidelity over 10 years ago I’ve spoken with thousands of women. I’ve listened as they have cried, raged, and questioned whether anything good would ever happen to them again. What I’ve learned from working with all these women is that a marriage can be saved if you’re willing to […]
There are few things more difficult that a human can go through than a divorce. Not like I need to tell you that but it helps to have your pain validated. Having your entire life uprooted can feel apocalyptic. I know it’s incredibly difficult – the women I speak with every week tell me about […]
Screaming, throwing a plate, crying until you’re dehydrated, and crying in the arms of a loved one all might seem like a good idea right about now. As an initial response, to learning your husband wants a divorce these are all valid reactions. But there will come a time soon enough when you’ll want to […]
A sacred pact has been broken. Your husband has strayed and now you’re left wondering how to heal from cheating and move forward. I know it seems as though the world will forever be stuck in this moment, but you’re not trapped in quicksand. Men have been cheating on women since the advent of monogamy. […]
Humans aren’t exactly the most faithful species. Owl monkeys, bald eagles, and prairie voles are a one-partner type of species. They find their soulmate, mate, and live out the rest of their lives with that one partner. But these creatures are anomalies. Among the living, from bonobos to the honeybee, monogamy isn’t the rule but […]
Being cheated on feels like the world you knew was once an illusion. The stable marriage you once had has gone up in smoke as you now feel unsettled adjusting to your new reality. When the rug has been swept from under your feet it’s natural that you feel a bit disoriented. Being cheated on […]